Such a heavy lift sometimes. One of my short-term goals in life is to get better or to achieve calling someone out for being a jerk without ruining the relationship.
I really enjoyed this - honest and thoughtful as always – totally get why you stopped following the news - the constant exposure is so depressing and it foes leave you feeling powerless and unhappy.
I’ve not read The Courage to Be Disliked, and I’m not aware of Alfred Adler - but I understand the idea that many of life's problems stem from interpersonal relationships – although it all might be a bit complex for me – lol.
But your reflections on communication are very relatable, and I think the message that we have far more control over how we treat others than we sometimes realise really comes across.
The ending really made me smile - summed everything up in a simple, memorable way. Don’t be a dick. 🤣🤣 A mantra for life that if everyone followed the world would be a far better place.
When I was on call for the practice, I went through a stage of getting very angry with patients if they woke me at night. It didn't seem to matter if the call was justified or not. From the minute I put the phone down untill I arrived at the house, I would curse repeatedly under my breath. Fortunately, I never swore in front of anyone. If we hadn't joined the out-of-hours service, I might well have been struck off.
Fantastic reflection and so humbling to reflect on ones own behaviours. As the march of AI progresses, I am a firm believer that the one thing AI will never be able to replace if human connection and emotional intelligence. This should be on the curriculum, not only at medical school, but in every school!
Thanks Claire, I've really become aware of it recently. Nobody will get it right every time of course. Emotijnal intelligence should be given a bigger stage in training
I had that book on my shelf for ages! Read it a couple of years ago. Chunks of it was definitely thought provoking. Good lens to use as you have done here!
Every medical student and junior doctor should read this post which is full of both wisdom and truth.
You are very kind, thank you
You can't control other people, but you can control how you respond to them. It's the ultimate power move.
Such a heavy lift sometimes. One of my short-term goals in life is to get better or to achieve calling someone out for being a jerk without ruining the relationship.
It makes things much simpler
I really enjoyed this - honest and thoughtful as always – totally get why you stopped following the news - the constant exposure is so depressing and it foes leave you feeling powerless and unhappy.
I’ve not read The Courage to Be Disliked, and I’m not aware of Alfred Adler - but I understand the idea that many of life's problems stem from interpersonal relationships – although it all might be a bit complex for me – lol.
But your reflections on communication are very relatable, and I think the message that we have far more control over how we treat others than we sometimes realise really comes across.
The ending really made me smile - summed everything up in a simple, memorable way. Don’t be a dick. 🤣🤣 A mantra for life that if everyone followed the world would be a far better place.
A thoughtful, honest article.
When I was on call for the practice, I went through a stage of getting very angry with patients if they woke me at night. It didn't seem to matter if the call was justified or not. From the minute I put the phone down untill I arrived at the house, I would curse repeatedly under my breath. Fortunately, I never swore in front of anyone. If we hadn't joined the out-of-hours service, I might well have been struck off.
Thanks Desmond
Fantastic reflection and so humbling to reflect on ones own behaviours. As the march of AI progresses, I am a firm believer that the one thing AI will never be able to replace if human connection and emotional intelligence. This should be on the curriculum, not only at medical school, but in every school!
Thanks Kate ♥️
That’s humbling to see someone own up to their previous behaviour. Most just become more entrenched with seniority.
Civility saves lives. Civility is also contagious.
Be civil, for fuck’s sake.
Thanks Claire, I've really become aware of it recently. Nobody will get it right every time of course. Emotijnal intelligence should be given a bigger stage in training
Exactly! The rule of life, don’t be a dick.
I had that book on my shelf for ages! Read it a couple of years ago. Chunks of it was definitely thought provoking. Good lens to use as you have done here!
https://inbetweendoctor.substack.com/p/the-only-important-thing?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=8k35s3
https://inbetweendoctor.substack.com/p/the-only-important-thing?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=8k35s3
My son leant me, The Courage to be Disliked, it was a helpful re-farame